A happy family is always the wish of most of us. However, family love will not be warm if the members do not know how to keep the fire alive. People often say that men build houses and women build homes. This is true but not enough because if only the woman’s hands are there and the other members do not know how to nurture it, it cannot be complete. Therefore, cultivating family happiness requires cooperation from all members. Here are 10 pocket secrets to help your family bond more closely and happily, please refer to them!
1. Spend a lot of time talking together
Spending a lot of time talking and interacting between family members seems simple, but with today’s busy life, it is a rare thing for many families. Talking not only helps parents and children understand each other better but also helps solve many problems. For example, when a member has a problem, the advice and sharing of other members will warm the heart and have a smarter way to solve the problem.
Chat is the invisible thread that connects family members. If children can talk regularly with their parents at home, they will feel warm, loved, and cared for. On the contrary, children who rarely talk to their parents will feel lost and lonely, and from there they will see that their parents are not really people they trust enough to confide in.
The whole family should take advantage of the time together to talk. Don’t think that your child is still young and doesn’t need to understand adults, so limit sharing stories about your work and life. Feel free to share with your child about all the topics you want and be interested in their stories!
2. Have dinner together
The time parents and children spend together is often not much, especially for busy people. However, after a tiring day of work, having the whole family gather together to enjoy dinner is wonderful. You will feel the warmth of the family atmosphere when the whole family has dinner together. Occasionally you can change things up with dinners at restaurants and bars with the participation of all members.
It’s even more wonderful when the whole family is in the kitchen together or sometimes the husband arranges time in the kitchen to cook dishes for his wife and children that the whole family likes. It is important to spend some time eating dinner together to make the family atmosphere warmer. For wives and mothers, seeing their husband and children enjoy the dinner they prepared is a great joy. So, don’t forget to give compliments to encourage the women you love when they’re in the kitchen.
3. Do housework together
The Eastern concept is to leave housework to the wife, but this is not recommended. Housework is shared work and family members need to be responsible. When parents and children do housework together, it helps share the hardships of women, and also helps the family gather together. Furthermore, your children also need to be taught how to do housework to take care of themselves. Parents can guide their children to do small and big tasks depending on their age.
When doing housework, members have the opportunity to be together and talk together, which is also a connection between members. When the husband and children share the responsibility of sharing housework, they will feel more responsible for the family and have a warm home to return to.
4. Plan outings when possible
Short or long trips are very meaningful for the whole family. Going out not only helps all members relieve stress effectively, but also helps parents and children feel happier and closer. These outings will help you feel the warmth that only family can have.
Besides, your family should also regularly go for walks together, go out to eat… with all members. In reality, many families today don’t have enough time for shared meals, let alone going out. However, you need to review this because it greatly affects family life. If the amount of time parents and children spend together is too little, then surely every family member will feel deprived of the atmosphere of a true family. Children are still young and need their parents to spend a lot of time with them. Therefore, take your child out when possible so that he or she can learn many good things and feel the love and warmth their parents have for them.
5. Parents know how to listen to their children’s opinions
Listening to your children’s opinions is very important because it will make them feel respected and cared for. When children say anything, parents should listen to their children’s opinions, and in fact, many times their opinions are very good and worthy of being welcomed.
Everyone has their own opinion and you should not think that your child is still young so he cannot contribute his opinion to family matters. On the contrary, children need to be trained early on to contribute their opinions to common work. This is also a way to train children’s thinking in the future. When children have an opinion, parents should think about it and if it is a suitable opinion, they should encourage the child. If that opinion is not really correct, then analyze and explain it to the child to understand. When their parents listen to their opinions, they themselves feel important and their parents trust them, from which they will develop further.
6. Equality and mutual respect
In a family, equality and mutual respect are very important and are the foundation for a happy family. You should not have a distinction of authority in the family because husband and wife have separate roles. The important thing is to try to do these roles well and be in harmony with each other to make the relationship more passionate, and especially to understand each other to overcome everything together.
The same is true between parents and children, the two generations play different roles and have different responsibilities. Parents should not demand too much from their children, but it is important to understand and sympathize with their children. Children have the right to decide their own things, so parents should be the ones to advise and guide their children, but leave the decision to the children. If children can follow their wishes, they will see that they are respected by their parents and will therefore admire them more.
7. Create consensus between parents and children
In a family, there is not always a common voice because each person has a different personality. It is important to find a common voice among members. Our grandparents have a saying: “If the husband and wife agree, the East Sea will dry up” and that’s true, if we can find harmony, everyone will understand and sympathize with each other.
In many families today, the husband plays the role of the one who decides everything, so he does not consult his wife and children. However, this is not recommended because it shows the husband’s authoritarianism. One idea is often not as good as many ideas, so let’s discuss and agree on all family issues before taking action, which will bring better results. Furthermore, members feel more responsible. Let all members have a voice and your family will make more informed decisions.
8. Help and share all difficulties in life together
This sounds very easy because many people think that sharing the responsibility of raising children and money is doing a good job with the family, however, in reality it is not like that, sharing money is just Another important aspect is spiritual sharing.
Any big or small thing should be shared so that members can understand and help each other. Not sharing and helping is probably the main cause of broken marriages. Husbands, wives and children all have their own problems in work and life. Therefore, it is important to discuss with each other to help each other overcome it. Listen, understand and sympathize so your family can be closer together. For children, this sharing is even more important because it is a stepping stone to help them overcome and stand firm when they fall.
9. Motivate and encourage each other to do good deeds
Compliments and encouragement are very important because they help us have the motivation to improve in life. Therefore, do not skimp on compliments for each other when parents and children do good deeds. Besides, you should also have gifts and rewards to encourage members to work together.
For many families, compliments seem to be economical and criticism is wasteful, but think that each individual has self-esteem and always wants to assert themselves. So why not give each other proper compliments and limit unnecessary criticism? Doing good deeds not only benefits individuals and families but also the whole society, so good deeds are worth encouraging and motivating family members to do the same.
10. Consider family is the first priority
Family is important to everyone and consider family as number 1, the most peaceful place that each person can have, then you will be inspired to return home. Think that behind you is a happy family filled with laughter and the warmth of loved ones. So, no matter where you go, you still want to return home to feel this peaceful happiness.
A happy home will be a solid support that follows us throughout our lives. So, take care of your family so that every member in the family feels that family is number 1. Let’s eliminate the gap between parents and children with the tips above!
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